15 Jul WHY I CUT MY HAIR & HOW IT MADE ME FEEL!
The first person I told that I wanted to cut my hair told me i’d be ugly on short hair. Most people had the same opinion while some others just could not understand why i would want to cut my 12 inch full, dark and thriving 3B natural hair. Now that the hair is all gone, the most recurrent question has been “why did you cut your hairrrrr?”. Along with comments like “hmm, you’re bold oh”. Well, thank you. Here’s why I cut my hair and how it made me feel!
The foremost reason is that I wasn’t taking care of my hair as I should have been and i really wasn’t going to get into it. It was stressing me thinking about wash days, detangling, moisturizing, deep conditioning, protective styling and all of that wonderful natural hair care stuff. I used to enjoy doing it but then i realized it had become burdensome for me and I was spending tons of money on going to the salon to get all of that done. I was also really craving a change! I thought about dyeing my hair, which I had done before but I knew that would not be enough for me.
The part about being told i’ll be ugly and that ‘my hair is my beauty’ was an extra push, to be honest. I am certainly not afraid of being “ugly” and I am a firm believer that if you seek beauty in the “ugliest” of places, you will find it. The idea that a woman has to have hair to be beautiful, does not agree with me and conforming to these nonsense beauty narratives, is something I will not do. A woman told me I will no longer be attractive to the opposite sex and I laughed so hard because I do not and will never do things for the purpose of “attracting the opposite sex”. A man seriously told me, “I will just stop talking to you, what’ll now be the difference between me and you, ehn?”.
I am a non conformist by nature, I refuse to live by people’s and societies standards. This is not something I force, this is something I have found to be innate. Cutting my hair was first an act of self love. While I love and will continue to encourage people to grow and nurture their hair as long as they want to, it had become stressful to me and i was not trying to stress myself any further. It is also a statement, to anybody and everybody that has and will in the future, present these foolish societal standards to me, I do not conform, you are not God.
I’m so happy I cut my hair! It took months of indecision because I had invested a lot of time, money and love into growing it but I had to let it go and I feel greeeaaat!
I relearnt two things in this process.
- God cares and wants to be involved in every single area of your life, including the not so serious things like getting a hair cut. Because of course, I had to talk to him about the matter and in true loving Father style, he responded; accompanied with hair cut inspo and guidance in unexpected ways.
- Don’t let people detect standards to you.The only standard you need to live by is the ones God leads you to and the ones you set for yourself.
Cutting my hair was a big deal for me because it made me be decisive & take charge. While I am a non conformist, I am simultaneously a “people pleaser”. Which means that while I tend to go against the grain, I also displease myself or hold back from saying my opinions or doing certain things in order to make people comfortable. It’s an odd mix, but if you know me then you know this is accurate.
My whole family and every person I love did not want me to cut my hair. I’m sorry my loves, I did this one for me. I’m happy, loving it and thank you very much! It gave me serious empowerment guys. Seeing as I’ve been in a state of uncertainty about a couple of things, this made me feel like I’m still able to take charge. It seems to have started a chain reaction because now, some other things are becoming clearer by the day, God is good!
On a lighter note, I love these pictures! I love my hair(or head, lol) even more!
Rate this picture on a scale of of 1-10 in the comments please? I say 10/10!!! Thanks to God for taking his time to create this masterpiece and Lucas Ugo Photography for capturing it!
I love you! Jesus loves you! And as always…
Love & Light!
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