How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Social Media!

Yes, social media is a very powerful tool but it can also have a negative impact on you, if you let it. So, it is important to know how to have a healthy relationship with social media!

One of my major concerns about social media is that people no longer have genuine self generated ideas & opinions about things. Their opinions are formed by popular opinion, if that makes sense.

I’ve once caught myself offering “my view” about something and realizing that it’s the opinion of someone I like on social media. A recent conversation with a few people revealed that this is common. Nothing is wrong with forming your ideologies based off someone else’s or agreeing with them, but you gotta ask yourself “do I really believe this? Is this something I can stand for for myself?”, and if my answers falls short of a yes, then point proven.

We are in this “woke generation” with so many “woke” movements and ideologies and stuff. And in a bid to be cool too, it’s easy to just go with the flow.

Ladies & brethren, you are not fish. Repeat it with me, I AM NOT FISH!

Only fishes go with the flow.

Then the worst of them, the constant need to compare yourself with people on your social media (and in real life of course)

Don’t believe the hype. Most times, social media is a depiction of the best of the moments in our lives, and we just make it look really pretty; it’s just a good camera & edit, I promise! An even if we are living our best lives as we all should be, stop getting worked up about it & start living yours!

On the search to cure the disease of comparison, I found a solution in God.

Here’s my school of thought, there is a creator and a creation. The creator has a separate & unique function for every creation of his.

For example, the manufacturer of a car has a purpose for every part of that car. The car would be incomplete if a part is taken away.

Purpose takes away comparison & competition. Because then you understand what the specifics of you as a creation, is. You understand your place in this world and know that you’re on your own journey. There’s no two people made for exactly the same thing. You are unique.

Let me stretch it a bit, you will also from this, learn to rejoice when others are blessed. Because na God still do am and he deserves all the glory baby!. Because their blessing does not make your path or purpose any less significant. Because you understand that you are on different journey, independent of every other person’s journey! Stop giving yourself headache.

I personally love social media! It arouses my creative juices! It challenges me, it makes me wanna grow, it entertains me, Informs me, makes me money, gets me free stuff! I mean, what’s not to love?

But I now ensure to check myself and ensure that I am not on any bandwagon I don’t innately believe in.

Take time to remove yourself from all the noise of social media so you don’t get lost in it. Take a break, if you must. I think we all need a break from it every once in a while or more, if you ask me. Find your voice and know it and constantly check that it is still indeed, your voice.

Don’t build expectations off the glamour of social media. Don’t compare your life with what you see on social media. Be wise, my friend!

Lastly, actually live your life, like in real life. Enjoy moments, people, places, life in general. It doesn’t all have to be on SM. I’m a propounder of making memories, in terms of pictures/videos and all of that. But, balance is key!

Survival Tip:

Kindly remove anybody that triggers you in anyway from your social media.

If you see a person’s post and it makes you feel some type of (not good) way, delete/block/unfollow that person.

Then look within and ask yourself, why does this trigger me? The answer you seek, is inside of you. Deal with it and flourish my love!

Oh and Incase you’re wondering, it’s all my natural hair! And this was a twist out. All my hair products and care tips are here!

Any thoughts? Share with me in the comments!

It’s all Love & Light,

Adaeze 💕

Adaeze Ume
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15 Comments
  • Chisomatic
    Posted at 22:12h, 12 July Reply

    Oh Lawd! Such wisdom! Love you forever!

  • Godlead Eromosele
    Posted at 23:14h, 12 July Reply

    Nice one..Inferiority complex can be very hard to deal with..i have battled with it myself,Until i realized how much God loves me..He proved it by sending Jesus as the payment for my sins and gave me His righteousness and freedom..I feel special when ever i think about the cross…

    • Adaeze Ume
      Posted at 03:02h, 13 July Reply

      I feel you! The most special kind of love! Thanks for stopping by

  • The_real_gifty
    Posted at 23:56h, 12 July Reply

    Social media is an amazing place to be in, but quiet frankly it comes with a lot of headache. The comparisons, the doubts and the self imposed pressure! Mehn! But like you rightly said nothing beats being yourself in all authenticity! Lovely post and pictures too!!

  • Viola
    Posted at 07:13h, 13 July Reply

    Yeah! There’s what I call mental detoxification. I do that a lot to filter out all the negativity my mind must have unconsciously grabbbed. I do that by taking a break from social media for 2 days or a week and carry out a self evaluation or meditation. When I come back, I review the people I’m following and delete those that don’t add any value to my life. This has helped me a lot and my r/ship with God as well.

    • Adaeze Ume
      Posted at 10:15h, 13 July Reply

      Awesome! That’s a very healthy & practical way to deal with it! Thanks for reading & sharing your thoughts!

  • Nkechi Okoye
    Posted at 09:36h, 13 July Reply

    Lol… I actually was wondering about the hair….

  • Hawwa
    Posted at 17:13h, 13 July Reply

    Love this post! It’s important to remind ourselves of social media detox time to time. A day off social media feels like 5 consecutive happy days.

    • Adaeze Ume
      Posted at 00:53h, 14 July Reply

      Thank you! A Detox is so needed!

  • Tijesunimi
    Posted at 17:01h, 16 July Reply

    This was indeed a good read! Thanks for sharing dear! ❤️

    • Adaeze Ume
      Posted at 17:23h, 16 July Reply

      My pleasure! Thank you for stopping by

  • CeeJay
    Posted at 01:17h, 30 December Reply

    Well said A lot of people are shaping their lives from and losing themselves to shit they see on social media and it’s very sad. I think it all boils down to self esteem. Yunno, they don’t really know their worth. Everyone needs to see this post.

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